Dual Counterpart Support

Lil tykes building blocks
We learn a lot
Why my hair is long and yours is not
Learning even more
You’re the class clown
While I’m the teachers pet
Still more interest
As young as we are
We learn from one another
Not crashing at all
Never to fall
Keepin me on my toes
Standing tall and strong

We embrace upon soul searching
Memories of 1st grade
You ate the paste
I smeared mine on my face
We were cheerleaders together
I cheered for the ball team
While you cheered for me
You wrote me poetry
Saying that you wanted to go wit me
But were growing together cause
We learn from one another
Not crashing at all
Never to fall
Keepin you on your toes
Standing tall and strong

Making me blush in your comments
I show my friends this weeks news print
You’re the talk of the town in Cookies World
He’s never messin around
As you ran for class president
You had all my time spent
Study time was a chore
As we engaged in so much more
Now you’re my soul mate
To think this all came from one date as
We learn from one another
Not crashing at all
Never to fall
Keepin each other on our toes
Standing tall and strong


No Baking Soda For Me

When I discovered that I had low porosity hair, I read that baking soda is what those who follow the no-poo system used to cleanse there hair and it also opened the cuticles. So it sounded interested. Not enough for me to jump on the band wagon though. And of course not without doing lots of research :). So while baking soda has is truly a multi purpose product, from brushing teeth, air freshener, to drain cleaner, one of uses will not be on this head. My decision to refrain from using baking soda is a simple one: it is stripping and drying to the hair. It is a very harsh product when it comes to our tresses so I shall stay away.

I will continue to deal with my low porosity hair by cleaning with Castile soap and using warm water.

Is Your Self Esteem In Check

Having high self esteem increases your confidence and your emotional resilience. So things such as rejection and failure will not have a negative impact. This doesn’t mean that you are emotionless and will not care if you fail but simply that in the event of failure you are able to bounce back and keep it moving. Individuals who suffer from depression or other mood disorders may not be able to respond to rejection and failure in this manner. For some it feels like the end. Make sure you are aware of your emotional state so that your mental health can remain balanced.

Water Temperature Matters

When we wash and condition our hair the tempeature of the water makes a difference in our end result. Without doing research most of us will wash with warm water because its more soothing and doesn’t come with a shock factor like washing with cold water. Research may reveal that cold water is best for you. It is for me because of my hairs porosity level. But before we get into that lets talk about the differences between the two temperatures. Our soothing and relaxing friend warm water swells the hair causing it to open thus allowing moisture in as well as causing frizz. Our chill friend, cold water, makes the hair shaft lay flat closing the cuticle which causes a smoother turnout…no frizz. Of course none of us want frizz, it just doesn’t look appealing.

This is where porosity comes into play. Low porosity hair can make good use of warm water to aid in opening the cuticle to allow the moisture in. High porosity hair will benefit best from cold water to help lay there cuticles down after moisturizing to seal it in. Early on in my natural journey and after I found out about porosity, as part of my regimen I would first wash with warm water to open my cuticles then I would DC and wash that out with Cold water. And I would do my daily co-washes with warm water also. Now I do everything in warm water because after I DC I moisturize my hair, so I want that to get in also. So I have decided to work around the frizz that my warm water regimen produces…Its honestly not that bad once I style it.